Monday, August 27, 2007

Cora: Blessing Your Husband

Chris and I have been married for 16 years and it was only in the past few years have I come to truly understand what it means to bless my husband.

Chris and I are two very different people.

Chris is adventerous. He loves to be outdoors. He loves to take trips and experience new things. He is always on the go. He can never sit still.

I do not like adventures. I love to be inside. I like to stay around town and stick to what I know. I love being home. I can sit for hours.

I realized one day that I needed to stop being selfish and I realized that it blessed him to join him in the things he enjoyed to do.

One perfect example: camping. Now, as I stated earlier, I do not like adventures, I love to be inside and I love being home. As you can imagine, camping is a huge stretch for me. The outdoors, the creatures, the disgusting bathrooms, the not being able to take a shower. None of this appeals to me. But, for some reason, it appeals to Chris. So for his sake, I take a camping trip once a year. He gets to be outdoors among the creatures that he loves, and I get to be with him and it is a win-win situation for both of us.

Another example: Israel. This is a teaser for my testimony which you get to hear at the Lights of Christmas, so beware. Chris had a dream of visiting Israel someday. The chance was made available to him and he jumped on it. Of course, he wanted me to share it with him. So, reluctantly, I agreed to go with him. After my agreement, I realized that this trip was very important to him. I decided that I was going to do all I could to make this the best trip he ever had and he was going to have the time of his life. I never imagined what God had planned for me as I made my decision to bless my husband on this trip. (You will have to wait to hear the rest at the Lights :)

Sometimes we have to leave our comfort zones to bless our husbands. But in the end, we ourselves are the ones who are blessed.

I encourage wives out there who struggle with being the "opposite" of your husband to search your hearts and to seek God. Ask Him for motivation to spend time with your husband, for strength to step out of your comfort zone and to be the blessing to your husband God intended you to be.

Proverbs 31:12 says "She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life."


Fran said...

I've loved watching you grow in this area Cora. I've even seen the occasional *gasp* smooch! lol

It was amazing how my marriage changed when I realized it wasn't all about me. :) Love you.

suzzanne said...

You and Chris are a wonderful example for us newlyweds, Cora! Thank you for sharing.

Laurie said...

I can't wait for lights of Christmas! You not only bless your husband, but us as well.

Sylvia said...

If the world only knew how wonderful marriage can be in the Lord! Thanks Cora, it's a good reminder for me! Love you!

Cora said...

You guys are just too kind. It's all the Lord. . .it's all the Lord.

Kim said...

I can't wait to hear your testimony, Cora! :) God has been showing me areas in my life where I've been selfish. It's not an easy lesson to learn, but the results are exciting. Loved this post! :)

Kari said...

How right you are! As Tim and I just celebrated out 20th, we had time to think about this too. We are different and yet it's what makes life exciting (if we let it!) Tim wanted to rent mopeds while we were on vacation in the San Juan Islands and I wanted to go whale watching. (after a quick pity party~ pout, pout) I purposed to enjoy the "adventure" of mopedding with my husband. As it turned out, I forgot to bring my ID (Tim had told me to leave my purse behind locked in the trunk on the other island) so we had to choose the convertible jeep instead. We had a grand time traveling all over San Juan Island together in the jeep. We brought our lunch and ate it at the top of Mt. Constitution. When we got to the whale lookout point we found out that the whales had not been seen and they determined that they had gone back out to sea. No whales that day. Had I pitched a fit, it would have been a bust but because I allowed myself to enjoy Tim's choice we had a GREAT day.
God really does honor our obedience to Him and His Word and blesses us abundantly.